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:: Our First Day in South Africa… not at all what I expected!

Our First Day in South Africa... Not What I Expected!

Someone snapped this photo on the first day of our trip to South Africa and it aptly depicts how I was feeling when I got up.

It had been a hard morning…

  • I lost my really important bag with my medicine, supplements, glasses, and contacts at the airport. (They never found it and we can't figure how or where it disappeared.)
  • I had been up for a few hours in the middle of the night with very cranky, jet-lagged kids.
  • I had tried to blow dry my hair and burned up the motor my blow dryer + flipped the breaker to a bunch of outlets.
  • I was tired, couldn't see (because of not having contacts), and my head was throbbing because I didn't have my allergy meds.

We finally all got out the door to our first destination and then Silas threw up.

Honestly, I was trying so hard to choose joy, but wondering if maybe we'd made a big mistake in coming to South Africa. I was so excited to be here, but it felt like everything was falling apart at the seams.

I decided that instead of being frustrated over things I couldn't change or fix, I instead was just going to trust God and rest that He was going before me in this. And it was beautiful to see how the day ended up being so much better than I could have ever imagined!

Our First Day in South Africa

This was our first stop of the day. This picture might not look like much to you, but I could barely hold back tears when I walked into this workshop.

You see, when I was in South Africa in January, we had many discussions about the possibilities of helping the locals learn more marketable skills (most can't think of jobs outside of being domestic workers or security guards or gardeners).

It was just a dream in January, now they have a real live work-working workshop, suppliers, trainees, and customers!!

And they have big, big visions of how this small operation might someday be a big scale operation making a huge difference in the lives of this very needy community!!

(This photo was taken just moments after Silas threw up all over the floor of this new workshop. Poor little guy!! Gratefully, we had plenty of wipes on hand + the South African equivalent of Gatorade and it wasn't long before he was feeling as good as new! We think the time change and new foods just made his stomach out of sorts.)

Our First Day in South Africa

This is Peet. He is spear-heading the new wood-working shop. I wanted to stay and talk to him all day long!

I was so inspired and challenged by his passion, compassion, and vision. This wood-working shop is located in a very poor area of South Africa (Hammanskraal) and the long-term goal is to train and equip young entrepreneurs and provide a desperately-needed source of income for this community.

I wish you could have met Pete! He not only wants to teach South Africans craftsmanship, but he wants to help them develop a strong work ethic, a commitment to excellence, and an entrepreneurial spirit - three things that are not commonly taught or exemplified to the young people in this area.

As we left the shop, Pete handed me this beautiful tray that he had made especially for me. I was touched beyond words and cannot wait to display this new piece of South Africa in our home. It will serve as a constant reminder to me to pray for Pete and his family for God to richly bless their self-sacrificial efforts to make an impact in this community.

Next we went to Reagoboka. I'll write a separate post about this whole experience after I get home because I don't have enough wi-fi or time here to upload all the photos and write everything out right now, but suffice it to say, it was an absolutely incredible experience.

Our First Day in South Africa

There are no words to adequately describe the emotion that this picture and standing here invokes.

In January, we visited this center and I saw how all of these children were being taught out of a tiny little classroom. (They would rotate classes - one class at a time - in order to accommodate all of the children with the little space they had.)

The local chief had given them land for a new building and they had building plans, but there was no money, since every penny (rand) that this center receives from government grants goes to provide food and basic necessities for these children and the running of the center.

Each of you who bought a copy of Make Over Your Mornings the day it launched helped pay for the bricks and the concrete and the local labor and the classroom supplies to build this brand-new two-room classroom!!! And we got to unveil it to the teachers and children this week.

It. Was. Amazing!!! To think that all of us together are having a little part in making a BIG difference in this community of very vulnerable children - it's surreal, humbling, and goose-bump-inducing.

THANK YOU for partnering with me to be the hands and feet of Jesus on this project!!! I wish you could have been there to share in the excitement and see and hear the gratitude they expressed to us.

Also, y'all: I'm just so madly in love with this country that my heart just might burst. The needs are so great, but there is so much hope and so many amazing opportunities for us to make a difference!

Our First Day in South Africa

This photo was my favorite from the first day.

My boy, Silas, was very nervous about this trip. He doesn't do new or change or different very well. He's shy. He introverted. And he would usually prefer to be right next to his mama when we're in unfamiliar situations.

So when I looked over and saw this, my mama heart just about broke in two. These boys put their arms around Silas, held hands with him, and embraced him - like they knew he was awkward and shy and they wanted to make sure he felt welcome and one of them. It was beyond beautiful.

By the way, Lisa-Jo's parents, whom we were staying with that night, were so, so amazing to not only help me track down contacts from an eye doctor here, but also the meds I needed (that was an interesting experience - Googling, talking to the pharmacist at the drug store, and having our pharmacist and doctor friends here help us figure out what would be comparable to what). I am so grateful - and it was so amazing to see the different ways that God provided so that I could get what I needed so I could function well on this trip!

:: 5 Tips on How to Love a Spender

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Guest post from Reelika of Financially Wise On Heels

Having a good relationship and communication with your partner is the key for a good life. Unfortunately, statistics show that many people get divorced due to financial issues. One of the problems may be that one person is a spender and the other is a saver.

If you and your significant other are at odds when it comes to financial issues, these 5 tips can help you better understand each other - and learn to love the spender in your life!

1. Listen, Share, and Communicate

Spenders think differently about money, saving, and spending. They are more impulsive and don't consider the differences between "wants" and "needs".

However, before you speak, listen carefully to what the spender has to share. Don't get emotional, but instead, share your thoughts and find the mutual language. Don't brag about how much you always save and don't be judgmental.

2. Understand the Spender's Background and the "Why"

How did the spender grow up? What were their family's saving and spending habits? What are the real "whys" he or she wants to spend so much?

Maybe it is a relief of stress, or finally having the opportunity to buy something? Spenders just love spending, no matter what the cost is. It can be frustrating, but always look for the real "why".

3. Create a Family Budget Plan Together

Having a family budget plan is crucial… and having the main spender involved is even more important. Create a plan together and discuss any splurges with the purpose of finding a solution.

Create a separate section for "free spending," so it becomes part of your budget plan already… and determine the amount that you are both able to spend without breaking your budget.

This relieves the stress for both of you as the spender can enjoy spending, and it is already part of your family's expenses.

4. Have Regular Family Meetings

Regular family meetings to discuss family finances can be very helpful. Don't only discuss spending, but also the possibilities for increasing the number of income streams.

Make sure you don't have the meeting after stressful day at work. This is never a good idea. Rather pick a weekend when you are not tired or rushing anywhere. It is important to make it a regular habit, otherwise the results are often only short term.

5. Balance Spending with Frugal Hacks

Spending and shopping are not necessarily bad habits. However, spending should be balanced with frugal hacks and/or savings.

One way to do it is to create a separate cash cushion for emergencies that potentially come up due to spending habits. Additionally, you should also consider cutting back on other items so the spender won't feel stressed about his or her spending.

Being responsible with finances is very important.

Following these five tips should help you find understanding and compromise with the spender in your life. Just remember to make plans and decisions together that are comfortable for BOTH of you.

How do you better understand spenders? Or if you are spender, how can others better understand you?

Reelika is an entrepreneur and the founder of Financially Wise On Heels. She is a happy wife and mom, Christian, financial management lover, and passionate about coaching. She provides inspiration, tools and resources to Moms to better plan, budget and manage their finances without sacrificing the needs and dreams of their families.

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:: Brigette's $51 Grocery Shopping Trip and Weekly Menu Plan for 6

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We had a wonderful time with family and friends in Branson this past week (it's always an adventure travelling with 4 young children)! We've managed to get back into some sort of schedule that involved grocery shopping and menu planning - so that's always good. :) I am trying to use up some of the produce from the freezer this next week to make room for about 60 lbs of venison from the deer my husband shot (yay for hunting season and free meat!).

Aldi

1 32-oz jar Unsweetened Applesauce - $1.89

1 large box Corn Flakes - $1.49

1 bunch Bananas (1.95lbs @ 0.38/lb) - $0.74

1 3-lb bag Sweet Potatoes - $1.47

1 4-ct pkg Tomat0es - $1.49

1 2-lb bag Sweet Onions - $0.98

2 16-oz cartons Egg Whites - $5.18

1 3-ct pkg Romaine Hearts - $1.99

1 32-oz container Half and Half - $1.89

1 3-ct pkg Green Peppers - $1.19

2 16-oz cans Pumpkin - $1.78

1 head Cabbage - $1.29

2 cans Green Beans - $0.98

Total: $22.26

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Harris Teeter

10 8-oz bags assorted Shredded Cheese - $12.00

1 pkg Chicken Quarters (8.01lbs @ $0.69/lb) - $5.53

1 bag Red Seedless Grapes (2.32lbs @ $0.88/lb) - $2.04

6 boxes Horizon Organic Macaroni and Cheese - $6.00 (used a rain check) , used 3 $0.75/2 printable (doubled) - $1.50/5 after coupons

2 pkgs Mueller's Pasta - $1.67, used 2 $0.55/1 printable (doubled) - FREE after coupons

2 16-oz pkgs Mahatma Brown Rice - $2.00, used 2 $0.50/1 Mahatma or Water Maid Rice, exp. 12/31/15 (RP 09/13/15) (doubled) - FREE after coupons

2 bags Chex Mix (B1G1) - $2.50, used 2 $0.60/2 printable (doubled) - $1.30/2 after coupons

1 gallon Milk - $2.99

2 18-ct cartons Eggs (not pictured - used a rain check) - $3.96

Total: $29.32

Weekly Total: $51.58

Weekly Menu Plan

Breakfasts

Oatmeal with Fruit (from the freezer) x 3

Toast and Hard Boiled Eggs x 2

Homemade Granola x 2

Lunches

(We still have A LOT of apples to use up from a couple of bulk purchases about a month ago. We will be eating them EVERY day. :))

Tuna fish Sandwiches, Apples, Green Peppers

Peanut Butter on Rice Cakes, Apples, Carrot Sticks

Baked Potatoes with Cheese, Apples, Green Peppers  x 2

Leftovers x 2

Dinners

Chicken Noodle Soup, Toasted Bagels, Grapes

Hamburgers/Hotdogs on the Grill, Tossed Salad, Macaroni and Cheese, Smores Bars (Hosting a Choir Party at our house with 40-50 people attending - but most people will bring additional food to contribute)

Venison Roast in the Crockpot, Potatoes, Carrots, Southern Biscuits

Chicken Gravy over Brown Rice, Broccoli (from the freezer), Southern Biscuits

Southwest Roll-ups, Spanish Rice, Tossed Salad, Grapes

Leftovers x 2

Snacks

Homemade Granola, Popcorn, Apples with Peanut Butter, Pumpkin Chocolate Chip Muffins

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