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Parenting a Strong-Willed Child

“Could you share some parenting advise for raising my enneagram 8 daughter? She is very headstrong and persistent, but has a complete disregard for rules and regularly challenges authority. As an enneagram 5 (and people pleaser), I do not understand the way she thinks. We have gone around and around and I’ve tried to get to the heart is the issue. But it seems her bottom line is she is going to do whatever it takes to get what she wants. How do I help channel her perseverance and tenacity in a positive way? She is only 8 years old. -a podcast listener”

When I got this email in my inbox, I could relate so much — because I remember being that 8-year-old girl with a very strong personality. And truth be told, I think “headstrong” and “persistent” are two words that can still describe me as a 38-year-old woman!

Oftentimes, we hear people talk about their “strong-willed child” in a way that makes it seem so negative… as if a child’s will needs to be broken and replaced. But that’s like trying to strip someone of their God-given personality.

I believe that the character qualities of persistence and determination can be such a gift — to your home, to your community, and to the world. That’s why I want to encourage you to stop trying to stifle a child’s strong personality and instead embrace the strength that it can bring.

In this episode, Jesse and I share encouragement for parents who are raising strong kids. I share from the perspective of being a strong kid growing up and we both share from the perspective of raising a child who has a very strong personality.

In This Episode:

[02:26] Why Swaddle Sacks have been a life-saver recently.

[04:53] I came down with mastitis on Tuesday, so here’s what’s been saving my life.

[07:59] My experience getting a Coronavirus test (Spoiler… it was negative!)

[10:59] A book update on Get Out of Your Head.

[14:07] We’re chatting all about raising strong-willed kids.

[16:21] It’s okay if you can’t relate with your kids, but seeking to understand them is so important.

[17:16] Why rules for an Enneagram 8 are very restrictive.

[19:29] Change your mindset and see the desire for independence as a blessing.

[21:03] Stop using negative labels to define your kids.

[22:07] How studying personality typings can be so beneficial.

[24:26] Celebrate their strengths because they really are gifts.

[26:11] Say yes as often as possible for your child.

[29:45] Don’t overly protect your kids from struggle and failure.

Links and Resources:

CuddleBug Swaddle Wraps for Babies
Get Out of Your Head by Jennie Allen
Reading People by Anne Bogel
MoneySavingMom.com
YourBloggingMentor.com
My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal@moneysavingmom.com

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

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Gretchen’s $82 Grocery Shopping Trip and Weekly Menu Plan

Aldi

1 pkg Frozen Chicken Breasts – $5.59

3 lbs Ground Beef – $7.19

2 Half & Half – $1.55 each

2 dozen Eggs – $1.09 each

2 lbs Butter – $2.66 each

1 pkg Taco Seasoning – $0.39

1 Sour Cream – $0.89

1 lb Ground Turkey – $1.89

3.10 lbs Red Grapes – $2.45

2 can Tuna – $0.68 each

1 pkg Flour – $1.15

1 gallon Milk – $1.69

1 can Refried Beans – $0.75

1 box Cinnamon Crunch Squares – $1.39

1 container Organic Yogurt – $2.69

1 box Fruit & Grain Bars – $1.35

1 can Black Beans – $0.48

1 pkg Romaine Hearts – $2.19

1 pkg Hot Dogs – $0.79

1 Italian Dressing – $0.89

1 can Mushroom Soup – $0.49

3 pkg Chunk Cheese – $1.45 each

1 pkg Mootubes – $1.55

1 pkg Flour Torillas – $1.25

1 bag Baking Potatoes – $2.59

1 pkg Chocolate Chips – $1.69

1 pkg Sliced Almonds – $2.75

2 Cucumbers – $0.49 each

1 box Snack Crackers – $1.59

1 box Cheese Crackers – $1.49

1 bag Tomatoes – $2.19

1 box Mac & Cheese – $0.33

1 bag Tortilla Chips – $0.89

1 canister Raisins – $2.89

1 bag Gala Apples – $2.79

1 bag Spinach – $0.99

1 pkg Hot Dog Buns – $0.75

1 pkg Bagels – $1.49

1 loaf Bread – $0.95

Total: $75.73

Walmart

1 bag Broccoli Cuts – $0.77

1 bag Sweet Peas – $0.84

1 bag Cut Green Beans – $0.77

3.97 lbs Bananas – $1.55

1 Pet Ice Cream – $2.94

Total: $6.87